First major opportunity: coaching one of our students, Marlene, for a public-speaking competition. The competition was organized by Never Again Rwanda, an NGO that promotes peace-building and tolerance mostly among young people, and the theme was, "How can we, as young generation [sic], deal with the past to build peace in the Great Lakes region?" The GLR is composed of Uganda, Rwanda, Burundi, and the Democratic Republic of Congo. My school sent four students, two who would present in French and two who would present in English, and they each had to speak for 5 minutes and then answer 3 minutes of questions. Last week the teacher who was in charge of organizing the speakers asked me if I could work with one of the English speakers. I wasn't thrilled by the idea because that meant more work for me (the inclination to laziness is amazing in a bad way), but I accepted the job. I mean, Valery was already coaching three students so I could handle one. So, from Tuesday until Sunday, I worked with Marlene. We worked through a few drafts of her speech until it was solid. I coached her on the appropriate amount of movement good gestures, the importance of making eye contact, and smiling. I challenged her with possible questions that could be asked by the audience. I recorded her practice speeches with my digital camera so she could watch herself and become her own critic. Then the morning of the competition arrived and I sat with her as we waited for her turn to present, showered her with praise when she was finished, and consoled her when she did not take first place.
The experience was really fulfilling for me and I think for Marlene also. Pretty much all of the activities at the school are group-oriented and the students are scheduled practically 24/7 so very rarely do I get to interact with a student one-on-one. I try to mentor them through little discussions as we walk together from class to lunch or after the clubs end but before the study period starts, but in general I don't get enough one-on-one time with the students. Working with Marlene gave me that opportunity. During the study period we would squirrel away in the staff room or the library to correct the drafts and then perfect her presentation technique. I would continually encourage her and shower her with affirmation to counteract Valery's statements that not winning equals a failure. Since each English speaker only had a 7-8% chance of winning, I thought it was possible to be successful without winning and I told that to Marlene. I told her that, no matter what the final result was at the competition, I was proud of her and she should be proud of herself because she gave a speech in a language that is not her own and her final presentation was 100% better than what she started with and it was true! When she delivered her speech, she was confident, used good hand gestures, smiled, and made eye contact the entire time. She was great!!! This afternoon I showed her the video of her presentation and she said something that made me so proud of her. She said something to the effect of, "I may not have won, but I feel I did the best job I could do so I have no regrets." Amen! That is the attitude I wanted to impart to her and whether it was my doing or not, she has the right attitude.
Second major opportunity: my class periods. After some schedule changes, I finally ended up with nine class periods a week, one in each of the classes for Senior 4-6. I try to mingle my lessons so sometimes I am dealing strictly with English and other times I'm imparting tools that will be helpful for life. Some of my recent favorites have been:
- Your Worth Comes from God: Self-Esteem - The first half of this talk is focused on how much we mean to God (he loves us, he created us, he wants us to exist) so that we can have that as the foundation of our self-love. I show a video clip called "The Father's Love Letter" to drive the point home and the students love it. The second half gives some tips from psychology to challenge self-critical thoughts by identifying the underlying lie in them and then answering back with the truth. I show a great video from a YouTube guy called Blimey Cow about the "seven lies you believe about yourself." Anyone with a teenager, or rather everyone, should watch it: www.youtube.com/watch?v=3SpwBmhR1go
- The Five Love Languages - Once the students learn to love themselves, I help them understand how to love each other by recognizing how they give and receive love and how others give and receive love. The students really enjoy taking the 30-question profile quiz that is in the back of The Five Love Languages for Singles and they laugh so much once they discover what love language they have. If you've never read or heard about the five love languages, I recommend you read the book by Dr. Gary Chapman or check out the website: http://www.5lovelanguages.com/
What's great about these topics is that they go beyond the classroom, beyond the school setting. If they can remember what I teach, they can have the tools to battle discouragement and depression, to successfully love and be loved, to strive after the things that will bring them happiness, and to figure out what God wants from them. These are all tools that I have learned as an adult and sometimes I wish I knew about them a lot earlier than I did.
So, these are just a few ways I have been able to contribute to the well-being and education of the youth at my school.